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Funeral trends are changing, with 92.1% of Australians wanting more celebrating and less mourning when a loved one dies, according to the Australian Seniors Cost of Death report.
When it comes to funerals, Australians want less religion and more personalisation. As a result, ceremonies today are shifting from being formal events of mourning to more relaxed and reflective celebrations of life.
This article explains what a celebration of life is and how it differs from a funeral. We also include some suggestions of how to plan a life celebration event.
What is a celebration of life?
Unlike a funeral, which is usually a sombre ceremony, a celebration of life is often a more joyful event that honours the relationships the deceased person had with those left behind. The death of a loved one is often a heartbreaking time, but the passing can also be an opportunity for reflection, and re-living fond memories shared with the deceased, rather than a ceremony of mourning.
While a funeral is often a sombre ceremony held in a church or chapel with religious elements, a celebration of life is often less formal and more celebratory event. Think of it as an upbeat memorial service. It is common for the deceased’s family to encourage attendees to wear bright colours or the deceased person’s favourite colour or sports team colours, rather than dressing head to toe in black.
At Bare, we can work with families to help you arrange a befitting celebration of life to make your loved one’s send-off unique. Give us a call on 1800 071 176 to find out how we can help.
When do you hold a celebration of life?
A celebration of life is generally held weeks or months after the person has passed. Some families choose to have a celebration of life on the anniversary of their loved one’s death.
As the coffin or casket is not present during a celebration of life, families will often hold the service after the ashes have been returned, so the urn may be present. This also allows for an ashes scattering ceremony to be included as part of the event.
Rather than planning a funeral in the immediate days after the person has died, the deceased person’s family have the time to catch a breath and plan a more personalised event that truly honours the life being celebrated.
How to plan a celebration of life
Planning a celebration of life is much like organising any other event or life celebration, such as a birthday party or even a wedding. Much like any other event, you’ll need to choose a date, venue and guest list, and consider catering, music, personalisation, and someone to make the important announcements on the day. We explain these in more detail below.
Much like these gatherings are is usually done without hiring an official event planner, you don’t need a funeral director to host a celebration of life. But if you’d like some help planning the service, Bare’s memorial team can help. We can even put you in touch with a funeral celebrant to lead the service. Give us a call on 1800 071 176 to find out how we can help.
Read our ultimate guide to planning a memorial for more ideas.
1. Where to hold a celebration of life?
A celebration of life isn’t usually a formal event, so it doesn’t need to be held at a funeral home or chapel. The send-off should celebrate the things the deceased person loved in life, so factor in their passions when choosing where to hold a celebration of life.
Consider a location that held a special significance:
- Was your loved one a member of a club or a regular local at a pub or RSL?
- Did they have a favourite restaurant, beach or fishing spot?
- Were they a green thumb? A park or botanic garden might be a lovely spot, in that case.
- Were they keen on kicking the footy or having a bat of cricket at a local reserve?
- Or were they fond of hosting parties or backyard barbecues at home?
- These passions might help you to decide on a location.
You will be restricted by any COVID-19 public gathering limits in place for your region. Home gathering numbers are generally more limited than public venues like restaurants, function centres and chapels. So if you’re considering a celebration of life at home, research what limits apply to visitors in your region and factor those restrictions into your plans.
If you are including a committal or ashes scattering ceremony, the location may also be suitable to host the celebration of life. If that is the case, factor in the interment when considering the venue.
2. Consider a funeral celebrant
A celebrant can help to officiate the service and introduce others taking part in the ceremony, like speakers. They can help create your loved one’s life story or eulogy and can often help plan the event with the family if requested.
Our Bare Memorial Celebrant Directory lists some excellent funeral celebrants from across Australia. You can review their profiles, or ask your dedicated Bare funeral director for a personalised recommendation.
Alternatively, a family member or close friend could officiate if preferred. If you aren’t hiring a professional, consider someone who would be confident enough to perform the honour and won’t become too emotional.
3. Invite speakers and tributes
You might like to include those closest to the deceased to say a few words, read the eulogy or a poem or prayer, or perform a piece of music. As mentioned above, consider someone who would be confident enough for the honoured task.
If it’s appropriate, you may even consider an ‘open mic’ for any guests to share a fond memory of the deceased.
A way to involve more of the guests in the memory-sharing is to ask them to write down fond moments of the deceased person in a memory book or memory box. The celebrant or officiator can later read these aloud.
4. Personalise the celebration of life
There are no rules when it comes to a Celebration of Life. So when it comes to personalising the service – the world is your oyster!
As mentioned earlier, consider encouraging guests to wear the loved one’s favourite colour instead of dressing in black – what they generally would wear to a funeral.
a loved one’s favourite song, musician, or movie score can help to set the mood for a memorable life celebration. Taking a look through their record collection can be a good start. Why not make a playlist of your loved one’s favourite music for everyone to enjoy? If you need some more inspiration, read our article on The best songs for funerals and memorials. We’ve also created the below Spotify Funeral Songs playlist.
When it comes to personalising the celebration of life, keep in mind the deceased person’s passions. Movie or music memorabilia may be a nice touch if they were a super fan. Or if the deceased was an avid collector, you might display some of their prized items on a memorial table next to their photo and urn (if one is being displayed). Or perhaps they had won some significant awards or medals worthy of displaying.
5. Decide on catering and refreshments
Did your loved one have a favourite food, sweet, drink, or national cuisine? You might like to include catering options that reflect their favourite food or something from their culture.
6. Set the order of service
Unlike a formal funeral, there are rules about the format a celebration of life ceremony should take. Some families run the event more like a party, while others take a more traditional route. So when it comes to setting the order of service for a celebration of life, it depends entirely on the elements being included.
Will there be speakers, a eulogy, music, singing – or even dancing? Will there be some form of ritual or an ashes scattering ceremony? The order can take on any form you see fit.
7. Invite guests
It’s becoming less common for funeral and memorial notices to be advertised in the newspaper. A simple (and free) Facebook event can provide all the details you need to say about the celebration of life. You might even send out electronic invitations to guests via email or messenger, as it’s a celebration rather than a formal funeral.
Any details about a theme or special requests should be included in the invitation, so guests will know what to expect, wear or bring. If you are encouraging donations to a specific charity in lieu of flowers, include these details in the invitation or event notice.
Ceremony planning can feel overwhelming, but we’re here to help. Give our customer support team a call on 1800 071 176 and we can help you plan a celebration of life befitting of your loved one, that you and your family are comfortable with.
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