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Despite having a no-service cremation, it is important that something is done to celebrate and honour your loved one’s life. It's easier (and cheaper) than you might think to plan a DIY funeral.
You may still wish to have a more formal funeral service or memorial, even though the coffin will not be present – but you don’t need a funeral director when planning a funeral. Arranging a DIY funeral gives you more freedom for personalisation and can save thousands.
There are actually no rules when it comes to funerals. In the same way that organising any event or celebration, like a birthday or even a wedding, is usually done without hiring an official event planner, arranging all aspects of planning a funeral or memorial service can be done yourself.
Starting the process.
Even with a direct cremation in place, there are still a few legal and practical tasks that need to be completed. Most of these are handled by your cremation provider, but it helps to understand what they involve. Creating a simple funeral arrangements checklist can make this part easier to manage.
The process usually starts with a doctor providing a medical cause of death certificate, which confirms when and how your loved one passed away. This document is needed to register the death with the state or territory Registry of Births, Deaths and Marriages. A death certificate cannot be processed until the death has been registered. Once registration is complete, you can apply for official death certificates. These are not sent automatically and do require a fee. It’s often best to order several copies at once, as banks, insurers, and super funds usually ask for original copies. You can read more about applying for a death certificate here.
As you continue planning, you may also want to check whether your loved one had a pre-paid funeral plan or insurance in place. This can cover some costs or set out specific wishes. Talking decisions through as a family is also helpful, especially if you’re working out how to organise a funeral or a memorial gathering without a funeral director.
If you do decide to seek help with parts of the process, a funeral director can step in for practical support. They usually require certain details, such as the person’s full name, birth information, address, and marital history, to handle paperwork on your behalf. They can also take care of transport, death certificates, and the necessary arrangements with the cemetery or crematorium.
Some families also choose to arrange a viewing before cremation. This usually needs to be organised through a funeral director and may involve embalming or other preservation processes. These services require consent and often come with additional costs, so it’s important to discuss and agree on the total cost and payment arrangements with the funeral director.
After the essential paperwork and arrangements are complete, what remains is the opportunity to honour your loved one in your own way.
Advantages of a DIY funeral.
Just because funeral directors have charged thousands of dollars to facilitate the service for hundreds of years, doesn’t mean it’s the only option when a loved one passes.
While it can be difficult to estimate the cost of a funeral in Australia, as prices vary significantly between funeral directors and the type of service, funerals can cost upwards of $8,274 according to Gathered Here and often leave limited room for personalisation. But arranging a direct cremation and separately planning a DIY funeral or celebration-of-life memorial service can not only save thousands of dollars, but it allows family and friends to tailor the service in a way that truly reflects the deceased’s unique life.
As a result of changing preferences, and rising costs, direct cremation has quickly become the fasting-growing trend in the funeral industry. The affordable funeral option allows families to arrange a cremation without a traditional funeral church or chapel service.
Without the need to involve a funeral home, a direct cremation allows the freedom and flexibility to personalise a loved one’s memorial service separately, to match their unique personality – and at a fraction of the price.
As of October 2025, the national average price of a direct cremation with Bare is $3,208* (price depends on location) so the affordability gives loved ones the financial freedom to arrange a more fitting celebration of life at a fraction of the cost. That could be a BBQ by the beach, or a memorial service at a park or some other special place that meant a lot to the deceased. And the money left over can be used towards a holiday, gifting to the family, or buying the grandkids their first car.
But if you’d still prefer a formal memorial service that closely reflects a more traditional funeral, you can certainly still arrange a DIY funeral without engaging a funeral director.
We’ve put together this DIY funeral guide to help you understand what’s involved with planning a funeral or memorial service yourself. This guide is broken down into the following steps:
- Book a funeral location or venue
- Decide on a funeral celebrant or MC
- Arrange catering
- Decide on funeral music
- Eulogy and tributes
- Create a photo slideshow or DVD
- Decide on the memorial order of service
- Memorial cards or ‘prayer cards’
- Funeral notices and newspaper tributes
- Arrange an ashes scattering ceremony
Step 1: Book a DIY funeral location or venue.
The biggest misconception when it comes to planning a funeral is that it must be done at a church or crematorium chapel. But this can’t be further from the truth!
Just with any funeral, an end-of-life service should be a reflection of someone’s unique life. So, when it comes to the location of your service, consider the person you are celebrating and what setting would fit their personality. Did they enjoy gardening, sailing, hiking, fishing or swimming? If so, you might want to consider holding the ceremony at a place in nature that better reflects their life’s passions.
“It’s no different to planning any other gathering – you just need to pick a day, time and location,” says Bare's Daphney Adams, a former funeral director and celebrant. “Then you can make all the arrangements yourself.”
Daphney has attended countless funerals and memorials over the years and says the options for a venue are limitless – be it at home or a public place that was special to your loved one.
“You can hold a memorial service at home, a public park. a community centre, or bowls clubs and RSL clubs have function rooms you can hire.
“For those who prefer a formal memorial that’s closer to a more traditional funeral service, they can actually hire out a cemetery’s chapel to hold the service there. A lot of people don’t realise that’s an option – you can hire the chapel for a private service for a few hundred dollars, without a funeral director,” Daphney says.
When planning a DIY funeral, Daphney suggests contacting your local cemetery to enquire about their rates and availability for booking a non-denominational chapel and function room for a post-funeral gathering or ‘wake’.
Many cemeteries can also provide catering options as well as audio-visual facilities to play a photo slideshow or DVD to celebrate your loved one. Some sites allow self-catering options if you’d like to keep costs down or to tailor to the deceased’s favourite foods. Booking the venue yourself allows you to keep costs down and make your service as individual as your loved one.
As stated on Melbourne’s Greater Metropolitan Cemeteries Trust website: “Whether for a religious or non-religious ceremony, or for post-funeral refreshments, our venues help personalise whatever kind of service you are holding.”
Step 2: Decide on a funeral celebrant or MC.
Next, you’ll need to consider who will lead the funeral or memorial service.
As a former celebrant herself, Daphney has led countless funerals and memorials over the years. But she says you don’t need to hire a funeral celebrant if you don’t want to – it can be a close friend or relative who is comfortable leading the ceremony.
“But if you don’t have the confidence, or if it feels too much to do yourself, you can reach out to a celebrant,” she says.
Bare have a list of funeral celebrants we have worked with and recommend, you can ask our customer team for a recommendation for a funeral celebrant if you choose to include one in your package for an additional fee.
Step 3 – Arrange catering.
Your loved one may have had a favourite food, sweet, or national cuisine that you might like to consider to better celebrate their life.
If you’re hiring a function room for your DIY funeral, the venue will generally have its own catering options available to select from. Talk to the venue if you’d like to personalise the menu.
You may also be able to arrange refreshments for the memorial service yourself by searching for suitable catering services in your area online, or speaking with a favourite restaurant to find out if they offer catering services.
Step 4 – Decide on DIY funeral music.
Music creates a certain atmosphere and sets the scene for a funeral or memorial, so when planning a funeral or memorial, think about the feelings and mood you want in the service with your choice of funeral songs.
A theme song from a favourite movie, TV show, football team, or event is often a lovely way to add a personalised touch for a less traditional service. For some inspiration, take a look at your loved one’s personal music library – you may be surprised by what you find.
Just a word of caution: you may like the sound of a piece of music, but ensure you take the time to listen to the lyrics and check that they are appropriate.
A list of suitable songs for an end-of-life service can be found in our article: Songs for funerals and memorial services, or with the below Spotify playlist. You can also find all our Spotify Funeral Songs paylists here.
For some tips on selecting music to go with a photo slideshow, see Step 6 below.
Music to start a DIY funeral service or memorial.
If you are having a more formal structure to your service, the opening piece of music has another task of settling people before the service begins, so keep that in mind when making funeral song choices.
Music to close a DIY funeral service or memorial.
For your closing funeral song, choosing something a little lighter or upbeat may be appropriate if you don’t want people leaving too overwhelmed with sadness.
Step 5 – Eulogy and tributes.
The tributes component of a funeral or memorial service begins with the eulogy.
A eulogy is a speech given at a memorial or funeral service, usually by a family member or close friend. Eulogies commemorate and celebrate the life of the deceased, so sharing a life story gives purpose to that life and communicates a legacy for those they love.
The purpose of writing a eulogy is to tell a person’s life journey, their achievements and triumphs, and describe who they are. But is it also for those listening to learn, to take something away that they can use to live their own lives a little better. Therefore, ensure that your story has some reflection of your loved one’s life that can be a lesson for those listening.
The most important thing is to write from your heart and express what means the most to you.
There are many resources that can help write a eulogy, including our How to write a eulogy: 7 step guide.
Funeral tributes.
Following the eulogy comes the tributes. Funeral tributes are usually given by the deceased’s children, parents, or other close relative or family member.
“Tributes generally add flavour to the deceased’s life story, as described in the eulogy, by sharing an anecdote or cherished memory that captured the loved one’s personality,” Daphney says.
Tributes can also be through performance of a song, poem, prayer, or inspirational quote. For some inspiration, we've compiled a selection of funeral poems here.
Step 6 – Create a photo slideshow or DVD.
A photo slideshow or DVD of videos can add a lovely touch during reflection time. It also creates a focal point for mourners to look without a coffin present.
A photo slideshow can be done simply by a tech-savvy relative or friend by using a computer software program like PowerPoint. If you know someone who is skilled with video editing software, they should be able to put together a short clip of home videos too. Alternatively, you can always hire a videographer if you want to pay for a professional service, but this can be costly and is not always necessary.
Music to go behind a photographic reflection should celebrate life, happy memories, joys of living – this is a time which highlights the deceased’s LIFE so keep that in mind and don’t make this selection too sad.
You’ll just need to arrange audio-visual components at the venue, including a laptop, projector, screen and an amplifier. If hiring a function space, speak to the venue staff to help arrange this.
Step 7 – Decide on the memorial order of service.
A funeral order of service generally follows the following format:
- Welcome music
- Welcome and introduction by celebrant or MC
- Eulogy
- Tributes
- Reflection time with music
- Final message
- Committal (prayers for religious services, sometimes at gravesite/final resting place)
- Farewell music
For a more formal end-of-life ceremony, you may wish to list the order of service and any poems or readings in a booklet that can be made simply with a computer program like InDesign and printed at a place like Officeworks. Or again, you might prefer to pay a professional to make one for you.
Many families include the deceased’s name, the date, time and place of the service, and the names of those involved in the ceremony. Adding these details not only makes the booklet practical for guests on the day but also turns it into a meaningful keepsake for family and friends to look back on.
You may also wish to include an obituary reading to share more of your loved one’s story, details of a chosen charity if donations are being collected, or acknowledgements to thank guests for their support. Noting the location of a gathering afterwards can also help guests feel guided without needing to ask.
Step 8 – Memorial service cards or ‘prayer cards’.
As an alternative to an order of service booklet, you might like to consider making up memorial service cards as keepsakes for attendees to take home.
The inclusion of memorial cards at modern funerals arose from the Catholic tradition of ‘prayer cards’ handed out at funerals. On one side, prayer cards carry an inspirational photo of the deceased and their birth and death dates. On the back is usually a prayer or scripture verse that honours a particular saint or Bible verse. But in modern times these have commonly been adapted to become more secular and non-religious keepsakes to include inspirational quotes, poems or messages as a memorial tribute to the deceased.
Again, these can easily be made with a simple design program and printed at Officeworks, or outsourced to a professional.
Step 9 – DIY funeral notices and newspaper tributes.
You can publish a death or funeral notice or tribute in the daily newspaper in your area easily through their website or by phoning their advertising department. Most newspapers will have the option to list the notice in both the print and online editions, or just the online edition if you prefer. You can easily book this yourself.
With the rise of social media, another option is to list the funeral notice on Facebook – either as a regular public post or by creating an event. An event allows you to invite the deceased’s nearest and dearest, which they can share with their contacts and save you from having to notify dozens of relatives and friends yourself. And it’s also free!
It is also common to include details about donations in lieu of flowers in the funeral notice, along with instructions on how to contribute to the chosen charity. These details may also be placed in the order of service for convenience. Including this option is one more way to personalise arrangements when organising a funeral for a loved one.
Step 10 – Arrange an ashes scattering ceremony.
You might prefer to have the ashes scattering service as part of the celebration-of-life memorial, or separately as a private moment for immediate family only – the choice is yours.
Scattering ashes can generally be done anywhere that is significant to your loved one. This may be a family property, a favourite bushwalk, at sea, or a regular holiday destination. The options for ashes scattering are endless and you can go as conventional or creative as you like.
Another common form of final farewell is a tree-planting ceremony as a way to create an enduring, living memory.
For more ideas on ashes scattering ceremonies, read our article: How to plan a memorial with a cremation.
Final thoughts on planning a DIY funeral.
Tradition tells us that when someone dies, planning a funeral needs to happen straight away. This usually takes place within a week of passing and whether in a church or a funeral home this service usually follows a prescribed format and is quite formal in nature. However, you don’t need to have such a formal funeral service if you don’t want to. Just as each of us are unique, a farewell to a loved one can reflect that uniqueness.
A Bare Cremation service enables you to organise the cremation when your loved one passes and then, when the time is right, you can arrange the appropriate memorial event to celebrate your loved one’s life. It is also important to mention that choosing Bare Cremation does not mean you cannot have a traditional farewell. Families can still decide to have a more traditional service or ceremony where the coffin is present before the cremation takes place.
Essentially, cremation offers flexibility in how you want to honour a loved one, whether that is through a memorial, a traditional farewell, or a combination of both.
Optional extra elements when planning a funeral.
When planning a funeral, you might like to consider adding the following personal touches to honour your loved one at their memorial or end-of-life service:
- A tribute table to place photographs, flowers and notes
- Decorate the venue with photos, flowers, balloons and sentimental items
- Live music performance
- Wear special colours
- Poetry reading
- Candle-lighting ceremony
- Memory sharing jar
- Small keepsake gift for attendees
- Guard of Honour at end of service
- Releasing butterflies, doves or bubbles
Our article 12 ways to personalise an end of life service offers more suggestions.
We hope this DIY guide to planning a funeral has given you some ideas to help you consider a self-planned funeral or celebration-of-life to accompany a direct cremation.
For more ideas about personalised end-of-life ceremonies, read our article how to personalise an end of life service.
Let us help you say the perfect goodbye by providing the highest-quality funeral service. Whether you are looking to organise a direct cremation, a memorial or funeral service, we would be honoured to support you.
*This is the national average price of an immediate or imminent Bare Cremation, correct as at October 2025. Please note that prices vary depending on location and are subject to increase over time. For an accurate quote and cost breakdown for your location, please visit our website.
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Disclaimer: This article and all information and pricing within it was accurate at the time of writing. Please see bare.com.au or linked sources for current pricing. This article provides general information only and does not constitute professional advice. Please consult a qualified expert for guidance specific to your situation.
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