Talking to your family about your funeral plans may seem like a challenging and daunting task, but it's an important conversation to have. Not only will it help your family know and carry out your final wishes, but it can also prepare them and alleviate some of the stress and uncertainty they may face after your passing.
Here are some tips for having a productive and meaningful conversation with your family about your funeral plans and final wishes.
How to start the conversation.
First think about who you want to be involved in the conversation. It could just be you and your significant other, or maybe your children, immediate family, or a close friend.
Plan ahead and think about what points you want to cover. This can be quite an emotional conversation, as most of us don’t like to think about what will happen when our loved ones are no longer alive, so being prepared can help keep the conversation on track.
Think about how to approach the conversation. You might mention a friend or loved one who recently passed and how it got you thinking about what your own funeral will look like.
Have the conversation early.
It's never too early to start thinking about end-of-life planning, including funeral planning. By starting the conversation early, you can give yourself and your loved ones time to consider your options and make informed decisions.
Starting early also means there is no time pressure to make decisions or rush into an option you and your family don’t agree on.
Be clear and specific about your wishes.
It's important to be clear and specific about your funeral wishes, including whether you want a traditional funeral or a more alternative celebration of life. You should also consider whether you want to be buried or cremated, and if you have any specific requests for your funeral or memorial service, such as music or readings.
In addition to your funeral plans, you may also want to discuss your final wishes, such as what you would like to happen to your personal belongings or any charitable donations you would like to make.
Consider your family's needs and feelings.
While it's important to express your wishes, it's also important to consider your family's needs and feelings. Your family may have their own ideas about your funeral and memorial service, and it's important to listen to their thoughts and incorporate them into your plans where possible. After all, they will be the ones attending the funeral, not you.
Write down your plans.
It's important to make your funeral plans known to your loved ones so that they are prepared for your passing and can carry out your final wishes. You can do this by writing down your wishes in a document, such as a living will or advance directive, or by discussing your plans with a trusted family member or friend who can ensure that your wishes are carried out.
Luckily it’s never been easier to note down your wishes, thanks to Bare’s Final Wishes tool. Use the prompts to think deeply about your funeral, and once you’re finished, you can forward it to friends and family, so they have a record as well. Click here to learn more.
Consider pre-planning your funeral.
Pre-planning your funeral can take some of the burden off of your loved ones and ensure that your final wishes are carried out. Pre-planning involves making arrangements for your funeral or memorial service in advance, like organising a Prepaid Funeral.
This will also alleviate any financial pressure on your loved ones, so in their grief they are not also stressing about paying for a funeral. By prepaying your funeral, you’re also locking in today’s prices, so you beat out on the inflation, whether you’ll need the service in one year, five, or fifteen.
Make sure your family knows where to find important documents.
It can be helpful to have all of your important documents, such as your Will, insurance policies, and funeral plans, in one place where your family can easily access them. Make sure to let your family know where these documents are located and how to access them.
Using a secure online vault such as the Bare Digital Vault is a great idea if you’re constantly misplacing important documents. The best part is that you can choose who to share access with, and when as well, so you don’t have to worry about your family trying to find your Will or Final Wishes when you’ve passed away.
A difficult but important conversation.
By having a thoughtful and open conversation with your family about your funeral plans, you can help ensure that your final wishes are carried out and that your loved ones are prepared for your passing. End-of-life planning, including funeral planning, is a necessary and important aspect of taking care of yourself and your loved ones.
The conversation also helps remove some of the fears and anxieties we get around death. For many of us, that fear includes leaving our loved ones behind and not knowing if they’ll be okay. Sharing your thoughts and fears can help demystify and empower your love ones to make decisions on your behalf.
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